Monthly Archives: August 2011

Minted is giving away 25 *free* business cards.

I’m sorry dear readers that my last two posts have been picture-less, but I will more than make up for that in this post! Minted is doing a fun giveaway for *everyone* for the next month: to celebrate our new business card collection, we’re giving away 25 free business cards just by clicking through here. I’ve been staring at the cards for the last few weeks straight trying to help spread the word and I have a few favorites I thought I would share with you.

If I were still new to town and looking to meet girlfriends, I’d go with waui’s pique chic:

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Everything but the kitchen sink: part six.

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Tuesdays with Alyssa: bathrooms, pollution and divorce in China today.

Here’s what I learned from my Chinese tutor today.

–First up, there are two different words for bathroom: 1. xi shou jian literally means “wash” “hand “room” and is for any public bathroom. 2. wei sheng jian means “hygenic” “room” and is for your home bathroom. I like this. One for ‘seat covers neccessary.’ One for not.

–Alyssa asked about my recent trip to the US and asked if the pollution there really bothered me. I said, ‘no, no it’s so much clearer than it is here.’ And she was shocked! Shocked that such an advanced nation would have no pollution. I pointed to my iPhone and said that’s because they make all of these here! Incredible.

–She suggested I go to work for the Mr.’s company so I can make sure he doesn’t leave me for a younger woman. Apparently, it’s very common in China for a wife to go work at her husband’s company to keep an eye “on things.” Then she went onto tell me about her cousin’s colleague who was about 30 and went to work at her husband’s company after they married. And then he proceeded to have an affair with one of their mutual co-workers. The horror! Not that he would have an affair but that he would do it right in front of her!!! I think the message here is mistresses are okay, just don’t do it in a way that humiliates your wife.

–Sidenote: I don’t think she actually believes that it’s possible that I work from home for Minted and often asks me why I don’t go down to Central to have lunch with the Mr. every day. Then I try to explain that the Mr. often has lunch meetings or can’t get away from his desk and she looks very concerned…

There has been a recent change in property laws after several rulings from recent high-profile divorces. It used to be that when you divorced, assets were split evenly. But now property will go to whomever it was registered to before the marriage, rather than be considered part of the joint estate. It’s somewhat similar to what California has where property from before the marriage is considered non-community property, but because American law looks at a lot more details and nuance Alyssa and others are super worried that it’s injurious to women.

I asked a lawyer of mind to explain how this works in the States–not that this Housewife believes in divorce!):

In community property states, property acquired during marriage is presumptively community property, and is divided equally upon divorce, regardless of title. Also, all income earned and debts incurred are generally shared 50/50 upon divorce. Community property states classify “separate property” as (1) gifts given to one spouse, (2) property owned before the marriage and kept separate during the marriage, and (3) inheritance. Separate property is not divided amongst spouses upon divorce in a community property states. I think only CA, AZ, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin are community property states… mostly Western, which is kind of interesting.

All other states apply “common law” rules for distribution of property upon divorce. In these states, it’s usually easy to tell which spouse owns what based on title, registration, etc.  If both spouse’s share title, each own a half interest in the property unless the title document says otherwise. If an item doesn’t have a title document, the spouse who pays, owns.

So let’s say a bride marries a wealthy man and raises his children for 20 years in “their” home. If he had bought that home before their marriage, then she would get no part of it. This had Alyssa up in arms! She pointed out that even if say the Bride’s parents gave a house upon marriage to the couple that the polite and manly thing to do would be for the husband, who is the head of the household, to register the home under his name — in good faith. But then if the couple divorced, the house would go to the husband because it was registered to him. This apparently makes divorce even more appealing to many men… and China is already facing a massive increase in recent divorces, up 7 percent annually over the past five years according to a Ministry of Civil Affairs report.

The nuance is that “the court should give reasonable consideration and compensation for the other party’s contribution to mortgage payments and to the appreciation of the house.” However it does seem like nuance is often lost in Chinese legal proceedings.

Ironically, marriage traditionally in China has been a very strong institution even though mistresses were completely permissible. Traditionally, a wife in Chinese is called a “qi zi” and a mistress is called a “qie.” A “qie” is a slave and has no legal rights, whereas the “qi zi” or wife is a free citizen and has all power over the mistresses… if her husband dies she decides the fate of all the mistresses.

Given that there are now 6 men to every 5 women in China, it follows that women tend to marry up and are most likely to get screwed by this law. Wealthy Chinese men have literally hordes of mistresses and this law lets him divorce his first wife and leave her with next to nothing to marry a mistress… I’m not sure I completely have my head around this but it seems that perhaps given China’s cultural background moving towards a more Western legal view of marriage is actually eroding women’s rights.

Can anyone shed a little light on how this new ruling will effect the institution of marriage in China–please chime in!

–Also of note in this new explanation which piqued my interest: “courts will rule against the party who refuses a court-ordered paternity test, and the claim of the oppositional party will be considered as true and legitimate.” Does anyone know if this is true in the US?

–To further complicate things, other couples are actually faking divorces to skirt recent laws that the goverment has passed to try to curb the crazy real estate bubble: “China this year raised the minimum down payment for second- home purchases, and about 40 Chinese cities including Beijing and Shanghai started limiting the number of apartments to two for each family, and one for non-locals.” By divorcing, couples then can buy up to four houses together.

–I think most of the above boils down to this simple fact: “China’s home ownership mania stems in part from the fact that a private residential property market has only existed for 13 years and has coincided with surging incomes.”

–Sources: China’s New Wealth Spurs Market for Mistresses, Legal Clarification of Marriage Law, Courts Get Property Guidance, China Home Sales Skirt Policies with Divorce

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Can’t live without: Beauty edition.

I can’t stand beauty sections in magazines. I feel like they’re just full of product placement without any real recommendations or tips.

When you live abroad, you can’t easily find all of the brands you used back home so you get more flexible… but you also realize what you actually care about! And I have to say Kiehl’s Extremely Gentle Eye Make-Up Remover is my No. 1 beauty product. (And lucky me: there are Kiehl’s stores in HK, but of course Amazon has the best price.) I can switch mascara. I can even vary my toothpaste brand. But I have yet to find anything that takes off smoky eyes as easily or comfortably as this stuff… it moisturizes the eye area and yet isn’t oily or greasy. Please, don’t be shy! Share your knowledge with us! What is your No. 1, ‘Can’t live without’ beauty product?

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Review: A Many Splendored Thing by Han Suyin

When I first moved to Hong Kong my friend and old book club member Krissy sent me a link to this list of books set in the British-colonial East. It’s a really great list! A Many Splendored Thing is on it, so I purchased a used copy as it’s out of print.

I love used books. Inside ‘Helen C. Prince’ is inscribed… I do wonder who she was?! Anyways, onto my review.

The book is semi-autobiographical account of Suyin’s year-long affair with a married British war correspondent in Hong Kong during 1949. Suyin is a Eurasian Doctor who yearns to move back to China after her Hong Kong residency.

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