Excuse me, but I am going to go on a little rant here. But the rant is purposeful… I really do not know how to handle this situation. For years, a good friend has emailed me sporadically to stay in touch. They are typical update emails on what is on the forefront of her mind and questions about our latest. My issue is this: I sit down and take about 20 or even 30 minutes to write back to each and every question or point or concern she raises, as well as asking follow-on questions to whatever she spent the email talking about. And then she never replies. I fully admit that it does often take me a week or maybe even two to write back to these types of emails. They aren’t urgent in nature and I want to take my time to reply… sometimes, or more like than not I’m traveling, and I only have five minutes and these emails warrant more time. First of all, am I in the wrong for taking up to two weeks to reply? Is that terrible? Do I need to resolve to clean up my email act and always reply within a week? What is the acceptable ‘length of reply rule’ for non-urgent correspondence?
But my issue is this: I do reply. She never, ever replies. It’s not like she replies most of the time and an email or two slips her mind. I know she, like all of us, is always on her iPhone so I know she gets my emails. Then, two months later I get another similar email and I’ll dutifully reply, but to be honest I’m just totally sick of this one way exchange. Should I, 1. email her and tell her my concern or 2. just stop replying to her? 3. take the approach I would take at work, and follow up one of my recent replies to her emails, by forwarding her the email and being like, ‘hey, just wanted to make sure you received this?’
What would Miss Manners do? Seriously, I need your advice! Thank you in advance.